FREEDOM

      As I look back on my like...  I can't help but wonder : Why did I have to learn lessons the HARD WAY ?  I have been in the most horrific situations unnecessarily.  So much of my life wasted unnecessarily, only because I made the wrong choices and I didn't listen to the advice of my elders.  In other words, I was told the stove was HOT, but I still had to touch it and get burned to truly "LEARN" (and retain and understand).  That being said...  Lets's talk about : FREEDOM !  

      Now, FREEDOM is a precious and fragile thing.  You can lose your freedom (and peace of mind) in more ways than you may think.  I bet the first thing you are thinking right now as you read this is that I am talking about people going to jail Right... : WRONG !  I have some news and food for thought, for all of you (my readers).  You can lose your freedom in many ways, other than just being put in a cage.  In fact, there are millions of "lost people" walking up and down the streets, than in any prison.  Did you know that in many regards, none of us in today's world are "TRULY FREE".  However, for the purposes of this blog entry today, I am specifically talking about, losing your freedom by your own misguided choices.

      Throughout my lifetime, as I look back..., WAAAAAYYYY  BACK...  I remember...  I had the opportunity to make choices that, at the time, I didn't see or was obviously made aware of.  However, I want to tell you that I am finally at a point in my lifetime, where I can make some choices that I wish I had made when I was in my late teens / early 20's.  That's so bad to admit openly, but it's true. However, times were much different back then.  I lost my freedom many years ago just by making 1 bad decision when I was about 18 / 19 years old.  If only I could have had a glimpse of my future, I swear...  Long story short...  Here is wisdom for all you young people out there.  If you are single and have no kids : DON'T !!!!  Protect your life, your body, your peace of mind, your future, and your FREEDOM.  Stay by yourself and put your energy into the one person that you will always overlook...  YOURSELF !  Some people say, "I don't want to be alone" or they are afraid of being alone.  STOP looking at the glass as half empty and look at the world of opportunities that you have right in front of you, without ANYONE, ANYTHING or ANY SITUATION standing in your way.  You are the first and only person that you should be thinking about right now !  You have the most golden opportunities sitting right in front of you if you can open your eyes and open your closed heart to see it.   

      Stay alone and enjoy your FREEDOM !  You have no idea how easy it is to lose it and how hard you will have to fight to get it back : IF YOU CAN EVER GET IT BACK ! 

      There are oceans of opportunities out there in life that you will never see until it's too late and you can't reach it anymore but once could and didn't know it, and you can only wish you could now...  So if no one has told you this yet, STOP...  Look around you...  WAKE UP FOOL and live your life.  My father always said : Son... It is those who are closest to you that can hurt you the most (and always do).  So peacefully and quietly eliminate everyone from your life that is no good to you and are holding you back.  Separate yourself from everything and everyone around you.  Get a fresh start.  Go somewhere, where you don't know anyone and no one knows you (on purpose and WITH a purpose).  Get a fresh start.  Don't be afraid.  Don't end up like me, over 40 years old, full of regrets, shoulda, coulda woulda's and no way to go back in time to recapture all those lost wasted years.  Live your dreams NOW, enjoy your freedom, and whatever you do, NEVER ALLOW ANYONE TO GET "TOO CLOSE" TO YOU.  After all, No one in life has your best interest in mind and in the heart than : YOU YOURSELF !  Freedom...  So precious and easy to lose...  So hard to protect and get back !  If you can...  BREAK THE CHAINS, don't have kids and steer clear of rotten, life-draining, dead-end relationships.  Put your life and your trust in GOD and stay to yourself.  Break the empty bondage.  Now move forward...

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Cultural Robbery

  

            If an Asian man and an Asian woman came here to The United States of America, from China (for example) and they later had a baby together, which is born here on American soil...  Would that baby be any less Asian just because of where he / she was born ?  No matter where you are physically located in this world, you can NOT change your Physical DNA and you can NOT change "WHO" you are !  "IF" you can figure out "HOW" to do that, PLEASE LET ME KNOW, and FAST !  OK, now let's say...  That the same Asian child, has now fully grown up and is now a 25 year old ADULT ! 

      This individual as grown up here in the good ole USA, went to our American schools, speaks, reads and writes Proper English, celebrates our American holidays and takes part in our American traditions here in our American Culture.  Even though this Asian adult is now fully "Americanized" (Asian-American) and is considered to be an American citizen by way of birth, does that mean that this person is not fully "ASIAN" ?  Does this person not have his / her Asian identity any longer ?  Remember, no matter "WHERE" you are in this world, you can't change "WHO" you are.  

      The parents had Americanized their child, in the hopes that their child would have a fighting chance to create a better life for their future generations.  Now that's 1 way to look at it.  Another way to see it is, that the parents are guilty of "Cultural Robbery" !  OK, allow me to explain...  Picture this : The 25 year old Asian-American citizen is getting older now and starts to become increasingly curious about who he /she really is and about his / her Asian heritage, traditions and origin / background.  He / She plans a trip to China.  The Excitement builds as he / she is finally going to see his / her family home land.  To make a long story short... 

      Upon a happy and safe arrival in China, it is quickly apparent that he / she does NOT speak Mandarin (Chinese), doesn't know any of the native Chinese customs or traditions, is quickly becoming alienated for others around him / her and is starting to feel like an alienated and uncomfortable in his own native land, all because the parents did not educate their child about who he / she is and failed to raise and provide their child with a familiar Asian upbringing (even though the parents DID have good intentions towards their child).  Thus committing the "Social Crime" of Cultural Robbery of their child.  

      The whole point of this hypothetical story is : This is "EXACTLY" how I have always felt inside.  However, it has always been unpopular to voice it out loud.  So I was forced to conceal my deep inner "Cultural Alienated Feelings" on this (and many other) subject matters.  After many years of "Internal" struggles about this, I finally sat down and had a long talk with my dad about this (R.I.P., 2012).  I asked him, why he didn't raise us (Me and my sisters) on a traditional Native American Reservation / land like others ?  Why we were not "Allowed" to take part in our own Native culture and participate in the life and heritage that we were essentially "Robbed" of and owed ?  Why he took that piece of our own history and heritage away from us ?  How could a STRONG and PROUD Cherokee father deny his own kids of their personal identities ?  Why were we deprived and denied of the upbringing that we SHOULD have had ? 

  

      For the sake of my deceased father and for my family's privacy, I can not disclose what his answers were to me.  I also sat and thought about the fact that our entire lives (me and my sisters) was a lie.  Essentially, we lived altered lives that was meant for us.  Not better lives or worse, just lives that was NOT supposed to be ours and NOT meant for us.  This is how I felt (and still do to this very day).  These are the questions that I posed to him and my real feelings that I candidly discussed openly with him.  I am a parent of 4 myself and I am fighting hard to ensure a proper upbringing for my own kids.  As a parent myself, I would URGE ALL parents out there to sit with their kids and discuss their feelings and reasoning behind their decision making with their kids.  Even though they are kids, you can help them achieve a great understanding of their past and who they are.  You would be surprised at how much it will mean to them later on in life.  Kids "DO" understand things a lot better then you may think.  Just think back to your own childhood.  Think about how much you would know right now today and how many "holes" in your own head would be filled properly right now, had your parents or guardians talked more with YOU.  Create the childhood that you would have wanted for yourself.  Pay it forward !  

      If you can ask for greater understanding, be willing to also GIVE IT !  It will mean more that you know to your future generations.  Like any other form of relationship in life :  

COMMUNICATION IS KEY...  

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