FREEDOM

      As I look back on my like...  I can't help but wonder : Why did I have to learn lessons the HARD WAY ?  I have been in the most horrific situations unnecessarily.  So much of my life wasted unnecessarily, only because I made the wrong choices and I didn't listen to the advice of my elders.  In other words, I was told the stove was HOT, but I still had to touch it and get burned to truly "LEARN" (and retain and understand).  That being said...  Lets's talk about : FREEDOM !  

      Now, FREEDOM is a precious and fragile thing.  You can lose your freedom (and peace of mind) in more ways than you may think.  I bet the first thing you are thinking right now as you read this is that I am talking about people going to jail Right... : WRONG !  I have some news and food for thought, for all of you (my readers).  You can lose your freedom in many ways, other than just being put in a cage.  In fact, there are millions of "lost people" walking up and down the streets, than in any prison.  Did you know that in many regards, none of us in today's world are "TRULY FREE".  However, for the purposes of this blog entry today, I am specifically talking about, losing your freedom by your own misguided choices.

      Throughout my lifetime, as I look back..., WAAAAAYYYY  BACK...  I remember...  I had the opportunity to make choices that, at the time, I didn't see or was obviously made aware of.  However, I want to tell you that I am finally at a point in my lifetime, where I can make some choices that I wish I had made when I was in my late teens / early 20's.  That's so bad to admit openly, but it's true. However, times were much different back then.  I lost my freedom many years ago just by making 1 bad decision when I was about 18 / 19 years old.  If only I could have had a glimpse of my future, I swear...  Long story short...  Here is wisdom for all you young people out there.  If you are single and have no kids : DON'T !!!!  Protect your life, your body, your peace of mind, your future, and your FREEDOM.  Stay by yourself and put your energy into the one person that you will always overlook...  YOURSELF !  Some people say, "I don't want to be alone" or they are afraid of being alone.  STOP looking at the glass as half empty and look at the world of opportunities that you have right in front of you, without ANYONE, ANYTHING or ANY SITUATION standing in your way.  You are the first and only person that you should be thinking about right now !  You have the most golden opportunities sitting right in front of you if you can open your eyes and open your closed heart to see it.   

      Stay alone and enjoy your FREEDOM !  You have no idea how easy it is to lose it and how hard you will have to fight to get it back : IF YOU CAN EVER GET IT BACK ! 

      There are oceans of opportunities out there in life that you will never see until it's too late and you can't reach it anymore but once could and didn't know it, and you can only wish you could now...  So if no one has told you this yet, STOP...  Look around you...  WAKE UP FOOL and live your life.  My father always said : Son... It is those who are closest to you that can hurt you the most (and always do).  So peacefully and quietly eliminate everyone from your life that is no good to you and are holding you back.  Separate yourself from everything and everyone around you.  Get a fresh start.  Go somewhere, where you don't know anyone and no one knows you (on purpose and WITH a purpose).  Get a fresh start.  Don't be afraid.  Don't end up like me, over 40 years old, full of regrets, shoulda, coulda woulda's and no way to go back in time to recapture all those lost wasted years.  Live your dreams NOW, enjoy your freedom, and whatever you do, NEVER ALLOW ANYONE TO GET "TOO CLOSE" TO YOU.  After all, No one in life has your best interest in mind and in the heart than : YOU YOURSELF !  Freedom...  So precious and easy to lose...  So hard to protect and get back !  If you can...  BREAK THE CHAINS, don't have kids and steer clear of rotten, life-draining, dead-end relationships.  Put your life and your trust in GOD and stay to yourself.  Break the empty bondage.  Now move forward...

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Virtual Life - VS - REAL LIFE !

 

      To many lessons learned...  They say, if you don't want something coming back to bite you in your ass, DON'T PUT IT OUT THERE TO BEGIN WITH !  Especially if your "Special Someone" may come across it later.  BUSTED !!!!  Well...  

      Sometimes in life, you just have to be "REAL" !  You know, today's technology is truly a wonderful thing.  However, what can you do when your intentions are good but the results are the complete opposite ?  There have been times where our "SINGLE" lives have later come back to bite us when we are "Coupled".  When you are single, you need not worry about anyone other than yourself, right ?  However...  When you finally find a mate here in today's world, things can sometimes become unnecessarily complicated, due to hurt feelings and jealousy involving past lives and experiences.  However, it's just that : The Past !  So leave it there.  It was all before your current chosen mate came into your present life.  Therefore, it's completely meaningless "NOW".  Get over it and move on with your present and future life.  Living in the past or being upset over it will change nothing.  All it does is delay or derail your intended present and future progress. 

   

      Case and point...  Your past Virtual / Online / Cyber life could quite possibly create many obstacles and hurt feelings with your current partner.  Here's a rule of thumb : If you are about to enter into a relationship or thinking of becoming attached to another person, : "STOP" !  THINK...  This is a good time to think about 3 things...  

1. Is this person the right one or is this person really worth ME ?  

2. If he / she is the right one and you feel strong about the person with TRUST : IMMEDIATELY start cleaning up all your SHIT !  

3. ONCE your "Respectful" clean-up job is done (COMPLETELY), then sit your potential partner down immediately and have a very open, straight forward discussion and air things out privately between the both of you.  

      It's better to just tackle this situation early on, right from the start rather than having it come back to bite you (both) later on.  Even worse, having your NEW Partner hear things from other sources that are less than 100% credible, where it can become something greater than what it really was to begin with.  Now, THAT's a REAL mess to clean up.  Especially when it could have been avoided right from the beginning altogether.  Don't allow your online virtual life to become a SCREAMING PAIN !  

Smurfette : STOP LAUGHING...!

      So remember, if you have a long standing online life, just be careful what you put out there.  You just may need to clean it all up later (Guilty as charged , by the way) !  One Last piece of advice...  Be careful with all those Online Dating sites out there.  If you are lucky enough to actually meet someone from an online dating site, here is wisdom : You may have met "Online", but live your life and relationship "Offline".  Trust that you will be MUCH HAPPIER !  Just because you met online does NOT mean that you should live the same way.  After all, The whole point of meeting someone, is so that you BOTH can live a REAL LIFE Together OFFLINE in REAL LIFE completely, right !

Limit your computer access and rebuild your Human Progress !  

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